I was making my way to a book store down town in my own little world, absorbed in my own thoughts, with no desire to interact with anyone other than get done what I was doing and leave.
A man came out of God-Tel, a local homeless mission, some ways up the sidewalk from me. He turned and moved to the right side of the sidewalk walking my way. I dutifully moved to the right so we would cross in the socially acceptable programmed manner. He walked with no sense of purpose and his steps had no urgency. I glanced at him to give the slight nod of the head that men give each other that says, “I see you. I recognize you and respect your presence, but I have no intention of talking to you”.
Instead of making the acceptable brief, expressionless eye contact and responding in kind with the same nod back, he looked away toward the street. Not giving eye contact raised an alert factor in me, so I steadied my gaze on him as he continued to amble toward me.
He was about my age, height, weight. He was sloppily dressed in old, dirty jeans and brown work boots worn six months past their life expectancy. He had on a threadbare, musty orange long sleeved shirt with one sleeve rolled up his forearm and the other flopping carelessly at his wrist. His shirt was tucked in the front and he wore a black, extra long belt, which was made for a much bigger person than him, but he had punched extra holes in it so it would buckle. The belt doubled after the buckle disappearing somewhere behind his shirt tail which was hanging down in the back. His skin was worn and weathered far beyond his age and three or four days of razor stubble dressed his face up to the edges of his short, matted hair. He had deep worried lines furrowed in his forehead and permanently etched smile line wrinkles that seemed more of an afterthought than wrinkles. His eyes were empty, sad, almost drained in a way, as though time and circumstances had beaten him down. The man’s spirit had a sense of hopelessness, maybe more of a helplessness really.
We passed by on the sidewalk and I intentionally spoke saying, “How are you, sir?” The man heard and quickly glanced at me doing the socially acceptable nod and said, “Fine. You?” “Good, thank you”, I answered and as quick as that, we were on the same sidewalk walking away in different directions. A little ways further I turned to watch him walk some more.
I wondered what regrets the man may be feeling. What’s his story? What opportunities did he make the best of and what did he miss? Where did he grow up? Was he loved as a kid? Does he respect himself? Does he want to really live or is it sufficient to him just to exist now? Does he have any glimmer of hope, and what grief does he know? Who cares if he’s around or not? Who has he helped in life, and who has he hurt? Does he get to laugh sometimes now or is the pain just to great, to strong, lingering like a thick fog clouding his soul? Does he have a real friend? And what’s he gonna be doing next year? In five, ten, twenty? What will he eat tonight and how many people will look past him, as if he is invisible, and has he become invisible inside, even to himself? I wonder, if I were him, what I would do?
I watched him until he turned several blocks away and was out of sight. The book store wasn’t important any more, so I started back to my car wondering what his world was like, what his heart felt, what his future held.
The shouts of reality scream in my ears, but the whispers of time echo in my mind. I could’ve been him. He could have been me. What good or grace do I deserve that he and I would not share a common fate? Why? I don’t know. I really don’t know.
Future = Dreams + Hope – Consequences ÷ Reality